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February 14th.

The date can mean different things to different people.

For some, it is ‘Valentine’s Day’, a full 24 hour period specifically devoted to showing your love and how much you cherish your significant other.

For others, it is ‘Single Awareness Day’, a full 24 hour period used as a constant reminder that you do not have a significant other where you might shed a few tears, house some Ben & Jerry pints of ice cream and pray that you do not grow up to be a single cat lady.

And for a third group, it is ‘Get Drunk with My Friends Day’, a full 24 hour period devoted to being with your friends or strangers at a bar trying to act like you really don’t care it is a day to celebrate love by getting intoxicated.

There are 54,250,000 single people in the United States and of those, 41,250,000 have tried online dating.  That means that over 76% of single people in the United States have tried an online dating site such as eHarmony, Match.com, OK Cupid, PlentyOfFish.com, etc. at one point or another.  Statistics show that of these single people online, 52% of them are male.

Statistics also show that men are the least active in online dating interactions from mid-November when the holidays start through Valentine’s Day.  On the other hand, women tend to be quite active during this time and the majority of women that join online dating occurs on Sunday, January 5th (Sundays usually have the largest amount of traffic on online dating sites). In addition, online dating sites show an increase in 24-30% boost in traffic from December 25th – February 14th with the majority of this increase resulting from women.

Through my own research from discussions with men, I have found this stat holds true for the majority.  Men have told me how the time period of the holidays through Valentine’s Day adds extra pressure when starting to date to an already pressure-filled situation.  Questions such as, “Do I need to get her a Christmas gift?”, “Does she want me to go to these family parties with her?”, “What does it mean if we share New Year’s together?”, “Are we at the point that I should do something on Valentine’s day?”, etc. are the types of thoughts that add to the pressure of the first couple weeks or dates of a relationship.  While men might shy away from the pressure, women usually thrive during this time and are looking for a special someone to curl up with during the celebratory period.

As mentioned, this is only for the majority; there are some men who choose to sign up for online dating during this time period because they want someone during the holiday seasons and there are some women who would shy away from the extra pressure instead of embracing it as well.

Now that it is past February 14th, it’s time for every single person to put themselves out there with nothing holding you back.

 

Single ladies, February 15th should be the actual national holiday and celebratory day for you. It’s the start of dating season for men.

Can I Close My Tab?

Can I Close My Tab?

(Excerpt from Happy Hour Stories: The Dating Misadventures of a Girl Between Her Cocktails Book)

There is always that moment in the night while at a bar when I realize it’s time to leave. Sometimes it is because I am having so much fun that I lose track of time and realize I have to close my tab as the bouncer is “wedding-night carrying” me out of the bar.  On other occasions it is due to the fact that I got a little too excited and had too many adult beverages.  And then there are the times when you know the evening is going to be a bust from the start and you just want to close your tab and leave as quickly as possible.  I have had all three scenarios happen to me when it comes to dating, but it is the last scenario that has happened quite often with my online men.

Some of my dates were with great guys that were just so socially awkward that they had a hard time with online dating. Some were ridiculous, but the good ones – and all men for that matter (right, ladies?) – could benefit from some advice on what not to do on a first date.

Here are my Top 10 Dating Tips (take them for what they’re worth) for men to follow when meeting for the first time so the date isn’t asking “Can I Close My Tab?” after the first round of drinks.

1.  Don’t reference the site on the date. Ever.
We both know how we met – online. We get it; it’s fine. We don’t need to have this fact be brought up in every single conversation.  Seeing that we have finally met in person and are physically looking at each other instead of the pictures on the profile, let’s get past this and have a conversation like we would normally do had we not met through an IP address.

And please don’t ask “how my luck is going on the site.” Obviously, if I am still going on dates, then I probably have been SOL. I am not sure what response these men are looking for.  To be quite honest, I feel like I have had a lot of luck in getting dates on the site, just not finding a man that has enough in common with me to have a long-term relationship.  Is that the response a man wants to hear? I don’t think so.

 2. Don’t ask to check your daily matches from that day together on your date.
A date might think that is funny, but I just think that is rude and unnecessary. If a man does this, he is basically saying one of two things – either (1) I am not that into you and want to see who else I can find while you are still sitting in front of me or (2) come see how many other girls want me and how I judge women.  Neither is attractive nor will lead to a second date.

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3. Don’t ask me the same questions I just prepped for a job interview.
Dates are supposed to be carefree and fun. It is a great chance to get to know someone, but that does not mean you have to come with a list of questions.  I love the “where do you see yourself in the next five years?” question. Buddy, I don’t know if I will like you in the next five minutes, so why don’t we live in the present for the first five drinks.  I left one date second guessing my answers as if it was a company that was going to call me for a second interview. I pondered whether my “life plan” was what he was looking for. Then I realized if he wanted to know my life plan before the appetizer came, it probably wouldn’t involve him in it.

4. Don’t bring up statistics from my profile.
I look at numbers all day.  I don’t need to be thinking about statistics on our date – particularly when they are about me. I am flattered that the man has paid attention to my profile, but if he knows more about my profile than I do, it turns into an interrogation instead of a date.  Please don’t repeat verbatim what you enjoyed from my profile. I understand you think it is a compliment, but guess what? I already know a hell of a lot about myself.  What I don’t know about is you and what makes you special – that is what I would like to hear.

After my date goes through this portion of the date, I kind of want to date myself instead of him.

5. Be careful what drink(s) you order on the date.
I like to drink (I think you all have gotten that vibe). Having said that, I know what drinks I can and cannot handle. If you put Red Bull and vodka or a Long Island Iced Tea in front of me, then the date might as well not even begin.  The same should go for men.  Know what you can handle on a first date – and when I say handle, I am not talking about how much you can drink without getting sick or drinking a handle of liquor. No, this should have been discovered after freshman year of college. I am referring to knowing what you should drink so you are not one of the following: (1) not able to drive home and/or blacked out, (2) not telling me your life story which you will most likely regret the next day, (3) not slurring your words so my response is “what” to every statement, and (4) not giving me every single embarrassing fact about yourself before the third drink comes.

I have gotten drunk on the first date by accident, but it truly was an accident. If you are ripping shots and ordering doubles, then I am pretty sure you are not getting drunk by “accident”.  And just so we are all on the same page, my couch is not an appropriate place to crash after a first date (especially if it is a weekday). I love me some alcohol; if I can handle it, then I am sure as hell you can, too.

6. Let’s save some details for the second date. Or the second year of marriage.
A lot of men make the mistake of putting it all out there up front.  I don’t like to play games, but I do like a little mystery in a date.  There are some things that should be held for a more appropriate time when we both know each other better. The mystery also leaves me guessing what interests you and it adds to the excitement.

Truly though, some topics of conversation should just never be brought up (until maybe after we are married and one night you inform me of these things when you are drunk and we can both laugh it off while I Google the keyword “annulment”).  Some of these details include:

  • The fact that you live with your parents and have no desire to move out anytime soon
  • Your past eight relationships and why they have failed
  • Your astrological sign and how you have already researched how it would match to my Gemini
  • That you want four children and you want them within the first few months of getting married
  • That you have already put my first name and your last name together to “see how it sounded”

 


7. Women don’t go “goo goo” for baby talk. Or pet names.
There is nothing worse than a man that does baby talk. Unless he is talking to a rescued puppy that can only hear eight octaves above the normal ear, I don’t want to hear it. I want a man – a real man. So act like one.

And the pet names after a date or two are just not appropriate. Actually, I take that back; if you are reading “50 Shades of Grey” and taking lessons from Christian Grey on how to please a woman, then, you can say “Laters, Baby” all you want.

8. Please don’t fight me when I request to meet in a public place.
There are some dangers to meeting strangers from an online dating site. Women, in particular, need to be cautious when doing so. That is why I recommend always choosing a public place with an easy escape route to meet a gentleman for the first time. I think this is pretty standard behavior and should be a respected decision.

I have had multiple men bring up the fact that they were disappointed that I wouldn’t give them my address and let them pick me up for our date.  They always use the excuse, “chivalry is not dead,” Well, here is a news flash. I don’t want to be dead either. I am not going to get into a car with you before ever meeting you and give you my address just like that. I prefer watching the news stories rather than being in one. I am sorry, but no excuse should have to be given for that decision.

9. Don’t lie in your profile.
I get that most men think there is this “stereotype” that all women are looking for so they might exaggerate a few inches in height, body image, or put up pictures from a few years ago to fit that stereotype.  We will find out you are lying the second we meet you, so just don’t put yourself in that situation.

Sure, my ideal match is a gorgeous 6’5″ athletic and toned manly man with a master’s degree, sense of humor, and a dog. But if you are a 5’7″ man with a beer belly, we could still have a connection and I am more interested in a man’s character than his physical characteristics – lying is not a good character trait.

But like I said before, my deal breaker is a cat.

10. It is called Match.com, not Desperate.com.
I think men believe there is a 1,000 pound gorilla in the room because we met online.  Think about it – our generation does everything else online – we find our clothes, our music, our information, and our dish on friends. Why not a man?

I may not be King Kong declaring my love for you from the top of the Empire State Building and we might not be stuck together like gorilla glue after the first date, but guess what? That’s normal.  If I enjoyed your company and we enjoyed a glass of wine and good conversation together on a Wednesday evening, then I would declare that a victory.

I think some men think the women on the dating sites are so desperate for a boyfriend that if there is chemistry on the first date, they are meeting the parents on the second and planning a wedding on the third.  I am sure there are women out there like this, but that is the minority.

If we met at a bar or a tailgate or basically anywhere else but online, and I asked you to become my boyfriend after the first two or three dates, I would be declared “Stage 5” clinger status while you would change your number and discuss with your friends what a stalker I was. However, I have had men do this to me quite often and I have to think it is the online gorilla, pumping his chest telling these poor decision makers that this is what I want since I was online.

 

From the Gorilla to The Eagles; Oh Desperado, Why Don’t You Come To Your Senses?

I have not met a man that has done all ten of these at the same time, but I have met some that have committed several offenses.

If you don’t want your date to ask to close her tab after the first few drinks, I highly recommend you take this advice.  If you really want to impress your date, I recommend her not having a tab in the first place.


 

The Power (Snatch) of Love

A majority of my stories have detailed what men should not do. I wanted to switch it up this time and write about one of the things men should do: date a crossfitter.

Celine Dion sings a powerful love balled called ‘The Power Of Love’ that details the strength that love can have over a man and a woman.  I am a personal believer that a different type of strength can also result in powerful love between a man and a woman.  I would like to call this strength ‘The Power (Snatch) Of Love’.

Note: The Power Snatch is a popular weightlifting movement in crossfit.

Crossfit has become really popular in the recent years, but there has also been some backlash against the sport. Some go as far as calling crossfit a ‘cult’ referring the the crossfit community members as ‘drinking the kool-aid.’  Well, I did drink the crossfit kool-aid and guess what? It is delicious.

While in true Happy Hour Stories fashion, my kool-aid was most likely spiked, a majority of the crossfit community actually doesn’t drink or is on a strict paleo diet.  In fact, the ‘drinking the kool-aid’ comment is actually ironic because kool-aid isn’t paleo at all.

I have been regularly crossfitting for the past couple months and it has become an obsession of mine.  It has even got to the point where I will only schedule dates on my rest days or if they are willing to meet at a bar once I am done with my WOD (workout of the day for those who have not drunk the kool-aid yet).

I have had dates tell me that they were intimidated by my doing crossfit in the past and it has been a dealbreaker  for some.  However, it is almost getting to a point where there are just as much if not more women crossfitting on a daily basis than men.  Crossfit has become a passion of mine and I would like to date a man who respects and appreciates it; he doesn’t have to go lift with me on the reg but it is appreciated that men understand what the passion for it means.

Since I have had the experience of men being intimidated by women who crossfit, I thought I would take one for the team (or in this case the women of crossfit) to explain to men why they should date a crossfitter…with a Happy Hour Stories twist, of course.

Reasons to Date a Crossfitter

  1. 1.       We Like Both Types of Happy Hour at The Bar.

Most of the women in the crossfit community are a lot like myself; we try to eat clean where appropriate but are still trying to convince the crossfit community that wine is actually paleo. Therefore, the phrase ‘happy hour at the bar’ has two meanings – and we like them both.

Our first happy hour at the bar usually consists of being sweaty, no makeup on, with chalk filled hands grasping the bar with plates on the side anxiously waiting for the ‘3…2…1…GO’ from the coaches.  We work our ass off questioning our own sanity as to why it is we love this and actually pay money to do so until we are finished and lie on our backs feeling nothing but pride.

Our second happy hour at the bar usually consists of being all done up, makeup on, hair done, sporting heels hoisting up an athletic body anxiously waiting for the cocktail from the bartender.

Ironically, the latter happy hour would require only one shoe choice where the first we might have to get real high maintenance on you and change our shoes twice. Olys and Nanos are a girl’s wingwomen in that form of happy hour.

On a majority of the men’s online dating profiles that I have seen, I have read a line that sounds similar to ‘I am looking for a woman that likes to workout, but is also cool with going to the bar or hanging out with me and my friends.’

Well fellas, 3…2..1..GO!

  1. 2.       We Set PRs for Everything In Life.

The abbreviation ‘PR’ stands for ‘Personal Record’ in the crossfit world.  You have probably seen the Facebook message of one of your girlfriends that read ‘PRed Fran Today!’ and were scratching your head wondering what the hell she was talking about and who this mysterious Fran character was.

Crossfit is all about the personal victories and the little accomplishments worth celebrating. PRs happen everyday at a crossfit box, whether it is increasing a time of a workout, increasing weight on a movement, or just doing something for the first time.

Crossfitters tend to take that ‘PR Mentality’ outside of the box and apply it to other aspects in life.  For men the possibilities are endless. Crossfitting women are competitive in nature so think what types of PRs they can bring to the dating world!

Maybe her next Facebook status is ‘PRed the amount of minutes I was able to give my man a massage today!’

 

  1. 3.       We Have a Nice Rack and Can Snatch. Oh, and we can clean and jerk, too.

Get your mind out of the gutter my friends; these are all weightlifting movements. Although, the double entendre usually holds to be true.

If you walk into any crossfit gym you will find beautiful, strong women putting up some heavy weights while doing the typical Olympic lifting movements – squats, thrusters, power snatches, deadlifts, cleans, jerks, etc.

If you have a rough day at the gym and come home to your beautifully strong crossfitting girlfriend and say ‘Babe, I am so frustrated;  went for a 275 clean and jerk but couldn’t stand it back up.’ Guess what? She will know exactly what you mean – how hot is that?

You’ll just have to be prepared that your beautifully strong girlfriend might have gotten eerily close to some of your own weight numbers herself.

  1. 4.       We Partake in All Forms of 6 Packs.

It is no secret that crossfitters have amazing bodies – some of the best I have ever seen.  While not every women is sporting a chiseled six pack, a lot of them are or are super close.  Regardless, they have super strong, athletic bodies and are dedicated to taking care of them.

Here is a little secret, though. A lot of crossfitters love to party.  At crossfit competitions, events, or parties you can see those hotties with the six packs walking around with a 6 pack themselves.

I’ve even come across a couple of 8 and 12 pack abs as well. They must REALLY like to party.

  1. 5.       We Usually Wear Minimal Clothing to the Gym.

Enough said there, I think.

For the record, I want all the men out there to know that I am not saying that you have to date a crossfitter, just that there are some major perks to doing so. I totally understand that crossfit and/or dating someone who is passionate for crossfit is not for everyone.

I am still a strong believer in a work-life-play balance. My motto is work hard, play harder and WOD the hardest. Most women who crossfit still like to go out, go on dates and have a good time. They just also are badasses at the gym.

You can have your rum on a date and workout too. It is just referred to as Bacardio.

The 12 Dates of Christmas

Thanksgiving week marks the start of the holiday season – that special time of year filled with parties, gifts, spirits, and cheer.  Why not add dates to that list?

Christmas is a holiday that connects friends and families. The movies always show people falling in love at Christmas time and using it as a special occasion to say something you might not have said the other 364 days of the year because you were too scared or sober to do so.

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The truth is, while you may not fall in love, the Christmas season brings different options and venues for dates for everyone to enjoy.

 

Here is the Happy Hour Stories’ version of “The 12 Dates of Christmas”:

 

On the first date of Christmas my date and I…Decorated a Christmas Tree.

Nothing kicks off the Christmas season like decorating the Christmas Tree.  There is something romantic and special about decorating a tree together. Whether you went and purchased the eight footer tree from the local farm or you are rocking the Charlie Brown Christmas Tree in your studio apartment, getting decorations and taking time together to decorate the tree is a fun activity.

#apartmentliving

#apartmentliving

On the second date of Christmas my date and I…Volunteered.

Sure, volunteering might not be the most romantic or sexiest of dates…but you know what is sexy? Being with someone who cares for others.  The holiday season showcases how many others are less fortunate and need help. Volunteering together at a soup kitchen, working a clothes drive, or walking the animals at the Humane Society is a good way to get to know your date better while helping others. ‘Tis the season.

Dogs love Christmas, too.

Dogs love Christmas, too.

On the third date of Christmas my date and I…Had a Christmas Movie Night.

With the hustle and bustle of the holiday season and the stresses that everyday life brings, sometimes it is nice to have a relaxing night in.  Since you already decorated your tree together, why not sit and admire that tree while spending some quality snuggle time on the couch watching Christmas movies?  I recommend putting on some of the classics…A Christmas Carol, Love Actually, It’s a Wonderful Life, Christmas Vacation, Home Alone, and of course Elf.  I also recommend having some spirits while the Spirits of Christmas Past, Present and Future are spending your evening with you.

Note: Wine also recommended.

Note: Wine also recommended.

On the fourth date of Christmas my date and I…Went Christmas Shopping.

Christmas Shopping can be a pain for some, but this can turn your otherwise dreaded errand into an opportunity to spend time with someone.  You both can help choose gifts for everyone on your respective lists and might even get shopping ideas ‘for that special someone’.

For That Special Someone

For That Special Someone

On the fifth date of Christmas my date and I…Played In the Snow.

There are a lot of great outdoor activities for date ideas during the holiday season. Brave the cold together to go ice skating, sled riding, go in the hot tub to warm up, or just go outside and play in the snow.  You will most likely have to get creative with getting warm during these activities which usually includes getting cozy with one another and/or hot chocolate (with Bailey’s Irish Cream obviously).

Baby, it's Cold Outside.

Baby, it’s Cold Outside.

On the sixth date of Christmas my date and I…Went to a Game.

There is no shortage of sporting events during the holiday season with professional and collegiate basketball, hockey, and football games to name a few.  Going to a sporting event together is one of my personal favorite date ideas throughout the entire year, but there is something extra special about seeing a game during the holidays. Tailgating in the snow is extremely underrated.

It's the gift that keeps on giving.

It’s the gift that keeps on giving.

On the seventh date of Christmas my date and I…Went to a Christmas Show.

In addition to sporting events, there are a number of plays, shows, and other events that are going on during the holiday season that would make for a great date night.  You can try out the traditional Christmas classics like The Nutcracker, The Musical Christmas Carol, or the Trans-Siberian Orchestra.  Or you can think outside of your Christmas box and go see some of the more unique options including Elf: The Musical, The Rat Pack Does Christmas, and Potted Potter.

The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear.

The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear.

On the eighth date of Christmas my date and I…Baked (and Drank).

If you knew me on a personal level, you would know that I avoid a stove or oven at all costs so it might come as a shock that I am recommending baking as a date activity.  Having said that, I truly enjoy the end results of baking so I think it could be fun to do together (particularly if your date does the majority of the baking and you stick to the drinking part).  My expertise in the kitchen usually involves alcohol but making Christmas cookies while drinking a hot tottie with a hottie doesn’t sound so bad.

Give me some sugar.

Give me some sugar.

On the ninth date of Christmas my date and I…Participated in an Ugly Sweater Bar Crawl.

There are few things I enjoy more during the holiday season that an Ugly Sweater get-together.  Recently, the Ugly Sweater Bar Crawl has become quite popular in some cities.  This is a great date activity to do together or with a bunch of your friends.   Usually the uglier the sweater, the more fun the evening. I enjoy this activity so much that I even have an ugly sweater for my wine bottle.

The only ugly thing about this is that the bottle is empty.

The only ugly thing about this is that the bottle is empty.

On the tenth date of Christmas my date and I…Went to a Christmas Party.

Sure Ugly Sweater parties are a blast, but another great thing about the holidays is the massive amount of non-ugly sweater Christmas parties.  Everyone likes getting dressed up every now and then and Christmas parties are a fun excuse to get out that little black dress and heels combo or to put on that sweater and button-down and celebrate with your date.

Keep Calm and Christmas Party On.

Keep Calm and Christmas Party On.

On the eleventh date of Christmas my date and I…Spread Some Christmas Cheer.

Few things get you more in the Holiday spirit or make you want o spread Christmas Cheer than cheers-ing with another and indulging in some spirits yourself.  One of my favorite things to do on a date is to go to a local bar or restaurant and have great conversation over a couple of cocktails.  This is even escalated during the holiday season with extra days off work leading to an extra amount of cocktails consumed.

Christmas Cheers!

Christmas Cheers!

On the twelfth date of Christmas my date and I…Tried Out the Mistletoe.

Let’s face it; Christmas is an extremely romantic season.  I mean it is the only holiday that includes a tradition involving hanging a plant on a door to force others to kiss underneath it. Rather than ask why, I recommend embracing this genius idea called Mistletoe.  I also recommend testing out the mistletoe with your date at every opportunity that presents itself; after all, you have to be prepared for the midnight kiss on New Year’s Eve.

If you are not as serious with your date (or looking for a date around Christmas), then I recommend my suggested route: Find a headband that has mistletoe attached and spread your own Christmas cheer.

xoxo..ho ho ho

xoxo..ho ho ho

 

‘Tis the season for dating.  Happy Holidays my friends.

 

Note: “The 12 Drinks of Christmas” Cocktail Guide Coming Soon!

 

Tinderella

Tinderella

Cinderella is the classic fairy tale of the kind and beautiful girl who lived with her stepmother and two evil stepsisters.  We all know the story…Cinderella is stuck doing all the chores for her nasty and unfortunate looking stepfamily, her fairy godmother pays her a visit, turns her into a beautiful princess look-a-like, she attends a ball, dances with the prince, loses her glass slipper, and then is reunited with her true love that she has known for a total of three song lengths when she is the only one in the village that has the correct shoe size to fit that glass slipper. And they live happily ever after. Obviously.

It is called a fairy tale for a reason and I totally get it. But I have some major issues with the classic tale.

First of all, I am sorry but there had to be a minimum of two people that could fit into the glass slipper in that village. My college roommates, friends, and I have shared shoes multiple times in the past. If finding your Prince Charming was as easy as fitting into a size 7 glass slipper, the world and dating in general might be a little different (and easier).  If I lose my shoe at the end of an evening, it usually means I am the drunk idiot walking home shoeless – not that I am about to become a princess.

Plus, I don’t have a fairy godmother, but I have my hair stylist, my Sephora makeup, and a closet full of what I would like to consider fashionable clothes.  When I get all dolled up and go out with my friends, sometimes my night includes dancing with men.  I might think they are my true love on the dance floor as we are swaying and holding our $2 drafts, but I can assure you that it takes more than a couple of songs to truly fall in love with someone.

If this classic were in a modern day setting, it would be told quite differently.  Therefore, I have revised this fairy tale for the modern day version known as “Tinderella.”

Once there was a kind, beautiful, and hopelessly romantic girl named Tinderella.  She lived on her own in an apartment and was a successful young professional. She was tired of the bar scene and decided to try to find her Prince Charming online. After some unsuccessful dates using the typical dating sites, she joined an app called Tinder that was recommended by her friends.

Tinderella signed into the app with her Facebook account and was instantly matched with hundreds of men.  She changed her filters to the correct geographic, gender, and age settings and let the app do its magic. She was astonished that so many of these cute, single men in her area shared Facebook friends and/or interests from their profile pages.

She started going through her matches, checking yes or no to each potential Prince Charming, and then all of a sudden like magic – POOF – she got the first “IT’S A MATCH” screenshot.  Since both people have to click yes for it to be a match, Tinderella was excited by this news.  She continued searching through the app for hours. Eventually her app showed the inevitable “You’ve seen all the recommendations near you” message. Tinderella was disappointed – how could that have been all the matches for her? 

The next day, she glanced at her Tinder notifications to discover she had more matches.  With some Fireball whisky liquid courage, Tinderella clicked on each flame that represented a match and started chatting.  Eventually she had seven conversations going and she was starting to feel better about her potential suitors.

One Tinder flame (Prince, 31) shared 5 Facebook friends and 3 Facebook interests with her.  He asked her to go out on a date and she thought, “Well how harmless can he be if he is also friends with Anastasia, Drizella, Jaq, Gus and Lucifer too?”   His profile showed five of his best looking Facebook photos that featured everything from a regular headshot, a shirtless selfie, his entourage at the bar, his dog and his favorite meme with the Tinder headline “Chivalry is not dead. I’m a Prince.”

After a long day of work and working out, Tinderella put her makeup on, picked out a great outfit, and got ready to meet her Prince Charming.

Will they live happily ever after? Only time will tell. She was living happily over their next few cocktails, however. To be continued…

OK – so the story might not become a classic like the original, but you get the idea.

Tinder is actually one of the most entertaining apps I have ever used and I recommend every single man and woman to at least give it a try. Note: when I say “single” here I am referring to your relationship status. I am sure your significant other would not appreciate you searching for what else is out there.

I have heard some success stories from people meeting through the app (particularly the ones where there are mutual Facebook friends so you can ask your friends what the other person is like) – and – I have heard some horror stories from those who decided to try to start a fire with a Tinder flame.

Here is my thinking, however. Whether you live happily ever after or not is completely dependent on you.  I am a strong believer that you can create your own happiness.

If you meet a loser from the app and don’t want to see him or her again – don’t.

If you meet a great person through Tinder and want to see where it goes – do it.

Happily ever after should not only live in fairy tales. It should also come from smartphones.

I probably should have been named Cinderella given my last name, but am glad my parents decided against that decision.  Cinderella actually translates to “little one of the ashes.”

If you do find your significant other via Tinder, well, naming your daughter Tinderella is completely on you.

 

Ladies, Meet Benjamin.

I have had many women (and men actually) ask me when and/or if it is appropriate for a woman to pick up the check for a date.  This is always a tricky subject and usually one of the most awkward moments of the night is when the server puts the bill between the couple on a date and you both stare at each other wondering who is going to grab the bill. Side note: Let’s hope that part is the only awkward moment of your date.

Regardless, I have created some personal rules that I have been following when dating for when I should pay for the check.  Please feel free to make these rules your own guide to financial obligations when dating also. Continue reading